As you may know by now, as a part of my Miracle Morning routine, I try to read self-help or personal development books. Books that will enlighten me and help me to live a better life and give me a kick in the butt when I feel like giving up.
A few months ago, I went on a small(ish) shopping spree at the bookstore and bought a few books that fall in that category. Today, I’m reviewing for you The Crossroads of Should and Must – Find and Follow your Passion by Elle Luna.
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Elle Luna used to work for startups in the technology world, for the kind of companies that create apps and whatnot. She had a pretty normal life. Then, she dreamed of a white room and decided to quit her job to follow her true passion: painting. It was a leap of faith, definitely. But Elle Luna felt like this was her destiny, what she was meant to do. Her MUST.
In her book, Elle Luna explains the difference between should – what society demands of us, what our parents/friends/spouse want us to do, in short, other people’s expectations – and must, our deepest desire, what we’d do if we had unlimited amount of money and time, that thing that defines us.
Of course, first, we’ll need to find what our must is. For some, it’s easy, but for others, it’s not, and Luna has exercises to help with that. Then, she urges us to choose it, to live it, every day. As she puts it, “Must is a choice you make every single day. Today. Tomorrow. Again. And Again.” Because it won’t work if you don’t.
Yes, she says, it’s a challenge and it can be difficult to get out of our comfort zone, but nothing will change if we don’t. And Elle encourages us to take it one day at a time, by focusing on daily actions. As we progress, we’ll see the positive effects it has on our life, and on so many people around us.
Okay, I have to admit something. When I first read the book, I liked it… but I wasn’t in awe. First of all, it’s SO beautiful. A work of art in itself. Really. But I wasn’t in love with it. It’s a short read, which is always good, but I didn’t get as much out of it as I do now, after a few re-reads.
I’ve actually dog-eared (I know, the horror! Where were my post-its?!) many pages and highlighted several passages of this book because they spoke to me and I wanted to find them again easily. But I made the mistake of putting the book away and I kind of forgot how insightful it was. Until I decided to write this review. As I thought about what I’d say, I rediscovered The Crossroads of Should and Must and I now know that I will keep it near my desk to consult it often.
As I read, it was clear to me that Elle Luna truly believes in what she’s saying. The exercises she suggests are helpful and can certainly help me, at least, to focus on my must instead of my shoulds. This is the kind of book that can get me going when I’m in a slump (like this week!).
Can a book be too short? It’s great that it’s a quick-read and it’s a good thing that I’ll come back to it often because otherwise, I don’t think I would have felt like it’s a good investment. Such a beautiful book, printed on high quality paper, is pricey. And I sometimes felt like I was breezing through it too fast. I wished it lasted longer.
Also, as I said, it’s going to take me time to grasp everything that’s in The Crossroads of Should and Must. The danger, with this kind of book, is to put it on a shelf and never open it again, like I almost did. Don’t do that. I’ve learned my lesson!
- You like short insightful reads that still manage to empower you.
- You want to find your true passion and the courage to make the most of it.
- You like beautiful, colorful, art filled books.
Does The Crossroads of Should and Must seem like the kind of book you’d read? Have you found your must and are you living it? How did you do it? Let me know in the comments below, on Instagram or on Facebook! I always love to hear from my readers!
Until next time,