This past week has been hectic to say the least! I’m coming to you later that usual, but with a topic I’ve wanted to write about for some time now.
The truth is, I want to get a little more personal. I realized I’ve been writing this little blog for more than six months, but I’ve not shared a lot about my personal life and what led me to where I am today. And I also realized that I love reading about other women’s stories.
So, get ready, because I’m about to tell you why I believe the Law of Attraction changed my life.
Okay, I know the Law of Attraction is a bit woo-woo. I understand not everyone believes it works and that the Universe is a thing. But give me chance to tell you where I’m coming from before you start rolling those eyes 😉
In the Fall of 2015, I was NOT in a good place. I had just turned 33, and I was really unhappy. Yes, I had a nice apartment and a job I loved and was good at. But something was missing. I was still single and I kept thinking that I would never find love, that I was not worthy of it.
I’d been in so many (pardon my language) f****d-up relationships at that point, it completely stripped me of my self-esteem. I didn’t understand why I ended up with guys who treated me like crap, ghosted on me, lied to me. I was crying a lot and seriously thinking that I would never be loved, because I was unlovable.
After speaking with a friend about the way I felt, she recommended a workbook to work on my self confidence. But when I went to the library, they didn’t have the one I was looking for. So I ended up buying one from the same publishing company, that focused on the Law of Attraction instead. (If you speak French, here’s a link to it.)
Reading (and working in) that little book really made a difference. I realized I needed to change my inner discourse. I couldn’t let that negative voice in my head insult me and bring me down. The exercises in the workbook helped me transform my negative thoughts into positive ones. Like, instead of telling myself that nobody loved me, I would say that I had a lot of friends and family members who did love me and care a great deal about me.
I learned that the brain believes what we tell it, even the things that are not real or are completely false. So if you tell yourself something enough times, you will start to think it’s true. That’s why it’s so important to cultivate positive thoughts.
The next step was to target my MAIN want or desire. So, I had to ask myself: “What do I really want? What’s missing from my life and would make me happier?” For some of you, that can be a tough one. It’s not always easy to pinpoint exactly what would fulfill us.
For me though, it was not such a difficult question to answer. I wanted to find love. True love, positive love, a real and lasting relationship.
So, following the workbook, I made a contract with myself. With a deadline. And steps to get there.
My goal was to be in a solid and loving relationship by my 34th birthday. I thought that giving this a year was reasonable.
As for the steps, well, I wrote down five small things I could do RIGHT NOW to get on my way. Because it’s one thing to wish for something. But, as many believers in the Law of Attraction will tell you, dreams don’t work unless you do. What you desire will not simply fall into your lap. You have to get going and make an effort. No, it’s not always easy. But if what you want is really important to you, you’ll get moving.
Those five steps do not have to be complicated, though, on the contrary. They have to be easy so you won’t mind getting them done. Mine were really simple:
- Make a list of what my ideal partner was like;
- Read that list every day, to keep what I was looking for (or not) in mind and not settle for less;
- Smile to people I met, even if I didn’t know them, because you just never know;
- Speak to strangers whenever I could (it could be an old lady at the cash register, a friend of a friend at a party, whatever, and it didn’t have to be a man) because that person could be the one to introduce me to my ideal guy;
- Tell my friends and family that I was open to a relationship and they could set me up on a blind date if they wanted to.
See? Those were easy things and they really didn’t need me to get too much out of my comfort zone. Except the smiling and speaking to strangers, because it gets intimidating. But it was not in a “let’s flirt” mood, so it wasn’t so bad.
You probably noticed, also, that subscribing to a dating website was not on the list. That would’ve been another easy step. But I didn’t want to. I’d been on different sites before and nothing came out of it, so I was really closed to the idea.
Now, the secret of the Law of Attraction is that you have to keep your desire, the idea of your happy future, in mind but keep living your life. You have to let go and trust that the Universe will do its thing and, if you help a little, give you exactly what you want.
I know it sounds nuts, guys. I get it. Some of you are thinking that it doesn’t work like that. That life is not magic. You’re right. It’s not. But if you believe in something and make sure that you focus on it and take small steps to make it possible, it will happen.
I’m telling you, I was a skeptic, too. But you know what? As insane as it is, five months after making that contract with myself, I met Alex and a year later we were moving into our home. Yup! And you know what is crazier? Remember that “Ideal Man List”? Well, it describes him to a fault. I’m not kidding. Goosebumps! 😉
Since then, my belief in the Law of Attraction has only increased. Many of the personal development books I read talk about it, too. I know it’s a bit out there and that many down to earth people would tell me I’m a lunatic. But who cares? I know it’s working for me and that’s all that matters!
If you’re ready to do like me and change your life by making a contract with yourself, you are more than welcomed to use my model. I am planning on scanning it to make a free printable out of it, but I have to be honest, I’m not really sure how to do that just yet. Eeek! So much to learn, still! Ha! So keep an eye out, I’ll definitely let you know when that happens!
Do you believe in the Law of Attraction? How did you find out about it? And what are you hoping to attract in your life? Let me know in the comments below, on Facebook or on Instagram!
Until next time,